Saturday, December 7, 2013

When it all Suddenly Stops


It’s been a couple of weeks since my last post.  It’s taken that long to let the events all sink in and get to a point where I could express it all.  Two weeks ago today we were in AT&T Stadium (Cowboys Stadium) and we were within moments of a huge victory.  We went into the game as the underdogs to most of the world, but our team and coaches knew we could win it.  We knew that this was our year and that we were going to march our way to the state championship.

We were less than 40 seconds away from upsetting the team that had knocked us out of the playoffs the previous year.  We could smell victory. Our fans were ecstatic and there was a hush on the other side of the field.  Then it happened.  The tide shifted and they scored with just seconds to go to take the lead. We lost by four points.  We stood there numb and speechless and there was nothing we could do.  We couldn't even get to our coaches and our boys and console them or hug them.  The next two teams were already taking the field for their game.  We simply had to wave from the stands and try to express our love and consolation as we were asked to exit so the next set of fans could come into the stands.

By the time my coach got home. He was tired, frustrated and still in a bit of shock. You see, we had been this close before just a couple of years ago and literally lost on the last play of the game.  Here we sat revisiting that moment all over again.  It seemed surreal, but yet, that’s part of football.  It only takes a second to change everything.  We managed to go to dinner but there was little conversation. There wasn't a lot you could say other than I’m sorry.  My coach scrolled through the Twitter feed of the game to analyze every play.  He spent time texting his players to make sure they were okay and to let them know how much he loved and respected each and every one of them.  We both received texts from players and parents and we responded back to them.  It was the best way to start the recovery process from the pain and frustration we were feeling.

If you’re reading this and questioning the words recovery and pain, you’re not alone and you’re probably not that tied into sports.  If you understand those words then you get it. You understand what it means the season to just suddenly stop.  You get that there is a void in your week where practice should be. Your coach is now home way earlier than is to be expected at night and that your life as you've known it for the past few months, suddenly and without notice takes a different shift.

Throughout the past couple of weeks several friends and community members have remarked to us that we must be “relieved that the season is over” or that I must be “excited that my coach is home.”  Neither could be further from the truth.  My coach and I both try to explain, that no we are not happy or relieved.  We were stopped short of our goal. We are going to miss time with our seniors and our players.  All we wanted for Christmas was a state championship.  I tried to explain to one friend when he said “you must be relieved that it’s all over”, that in his world that would be me like me saying to him, “you must be relieved that you almost closed that deal, but you didn't quite make it and your competing vendor won the contract .”  He just looked at me like I was a bit crazy.

So it’s been a couple of weeks and playoffs are going on without us. We are now cheering on our friends and fellow coaches that are still in the hunt for that state championship. We are also still working on letting the pain and frustration of a season stopped short go away. The Christmas decorations are up and the world is continuing to move ahead. My coach has already started the conversations with his head coach and other coaches about personnel for next season and what off-season has in store for them.  Life moves and so must we. Our boys are coming to dinner this week and I can’t wait to have them all around my dining room table as we talk and laugh about the past season. I’m excited to hear their perspective on the season.  I’m also sad that it will be the last time we gather with this group of seniors as part of our family, but more on that next week.

Cheering you on,
Laurel


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